Coaching

For people determined not to pass their damage forward.

Nothing here works overnight. It works when you work, when nobody is watching, until it works every day.

I see the pattern under the performance. Mostly because I performed it.

Who this is for

Veterans. Fathers. High performers. People who can out-discipline everybody in the room and still lose an argument with themselves when the room gets quiet.

Your grit got you through something. Deployment. Divorce. Business. Loss. Eighty-hour weeks. The season of your life everybody congratulated you for surviving while nobody noticed what survival was doing to you.

Grit got me through. Then I tried to live there.

Somewhere along the way, the thing that helped you survive may have become the wall you now live behind. From the outside, capable. Inside, listing.

I am not guessing. I ran that program for years. Five-star reviews. The house is another story.

What we actually do

We train. Actual training. Barbells. Breath. Sweat.

The body has an inconvenient habit of telling the truth. I had a lawyer in my mouth. It didn’t help.

Then we take that same honesty into everything else. Relationships. Work. Faith. Habits. The conversation you keep postponing. The thing you do at night that you hoped I would not ask about. The gap between the person you say you want to be and the person who keeps showing up on Tuesday.

We build disciplines that still work when life is ugly. Not retreat disciplines. Tuesday disciplines. And we practice staying instead of escaping when things get heavy.

I once packed my whole life into a sea bag and called it forward motion. So when I say I understand escape, I mean I have driven the getaway car.

How I work

I watch. Not just what you tell me is wrong. I watch how you move. Where you hesitate. What you avoid. What you repeat. What makes you defensive. What makes you disappear. And where your stated values and your actual Tuesday stop agreeing.

Then I listen for the belief underneath the behavior. After that, I ask the question underneath the obvious question.

Call it pattern recognition from a man who spent years being the pattern.

We start with the mind, train the body, and bring the deeper parts of life into alignment so the change shows up on Tuesday.

Lōkahi Ola is the name I give to the method behind Mind-Body-Soul Transformation Coaching. Lōkahi speaks to unity and harmony. Ola speaks to life, health, and well-being.

I picture it as a waʻa moving across open water.

The mind is the navigator. It reads the conditions, shapes attention and belief, and leads the choices we make in the moment.

The body is the vessel. It carries the load, takes the strain, and turns intention into disciplined action.

The soul is the invisible outrigger. It brings balance and establishes the deeper heading. Faith, values, meaning, conscience, and purpose keep the life from capsizing.

Context is the water. Family. History. Culture. Relationships. Work. Habits. Environment. These are the conditions through which every life has to move.

The soul gives the heading. The mind navigates the conditions. The body makes the journey.

The parts of a life move together. None moves alone.

What you get

Here is exactly what you’re signing up for. I’d rather over-explain now than surprise you in week three.

• In person in Dallas, TX, or online. Online sessions are live on Zoom. FaceTime works if you’re on Apple.
• At least three one-hour sessions a week. Real change needs repetition, and repetition needs a set time slot.
• At least eight weeks. Old patterns took years. They don’t leave in a long weekend.
• A check-in every week. Between sessions, we stay in touch by text or GroupMe.
• Progress you can measure: body fat percentage, muscle mass, fat mass, and weight, plus a 1–10 check on mind, body, and soul. We re-measure every three weeks.
• A fitness plan, a cardio plan, and a meal plan.
• A plan for the habits that show up as relief and turn into the problem. Built around your actual life.

The consultation is free and takes 25 minutes. For details, book one.

What happens next

1. Write me. Tell me where you actually are.
2. I write back within 24 hours.
3. We talk for 25 minutes, free, by phone or video: where you are, and what’s in the way. We’ll find a way to make it work.
4. If it’s a fit, we take your baseline: body fat, muscle mass, fat mass, weight, and a 1–10 check on mind, body, and soul. Then I build your plan.

Not ready to talk? Start with the Tuesday Check. Ten minutes, on paper, just for you.

Sent. I read every letter, and we go from there.

That did not go through. Write me at hello@theguyvalentino.com and I will answer there.

What this looks like in practice

“It feels different to be in this body today than it did a few months ago.”Ibrahim Kamal

“He sees what you’re capable of and somehow gets you to see it too.”Nimesh Vettikkattil

Current clients. Their words.

• What separates you from other trainers is that you seem to have an intuitive understanding of what it is like to be me in this body. And that’s not just rooted in a deep understanding of the science but also a high level of attunement to me as an individual.

  And this level of attunement also allows you to see the stories living in a person’s body, their beliefs about themselves and their place in the world. From day one you’ve always talked about the physical transformation as a gateway to a psychological and spiritual transformation. The first thing we talked about was trauma, pain, suffering, fear and training as a way of overcoming these things. That’s not something I hear other trainers talk about.

  Since we started, I can feel my relationship to my body changing. In every session we make clear, measurable progress. It feels different to be in this body today than it did a few months ago. And I have no doubt that is going to have an impact on every aspect of my life.

  I feel grateful to have found you. I know there are many out there who need what you offer, who may not even know that this is what they need, and I hope they find you too.

  Ibrahim Kamal Client

• Guy has an incredible gift for motivating people and making you truly believe in yourself. He has a way of making things that once seemed impossible suddenly feel achievable.

  I don’t know if that comes from his experience as a Marine or if it’s simply a God-given talent, but his ability to bring confidence and belief out of people is something special. He makes you feel like you can hold the world in your hands and accomplish anything you set your mind to.

  He sees what you’re capable of and somehow gets you to see it too.

  Guy doesn’t just push you to do more—he makes you believe that you can. That’s what makes Guy more than just a great trainer/coach. He doesn’t just help you become stronger. He makes you believe you can become more.

  Nimesh Vettikkattil Client